It’s Not About What You’re Wearing

Is it me or is the world of women getting more superficial by the day? I recently opened a local Scottsdale magazine and discovered it was full of articles and ads for plastic surgery, the ultimate wax experience, permanent makeup, a weight loss clinic that works, personal body training, breast implants, designer clothes and accessories that are must-haves, Lasik surgery, teeth whitening and expensive jewelry to make your friends jealous. The coup de grace were pages of  thin young women in model-like stances proudly announcing the brand of every item on their bodies. What are we becoming? Does anyone care? We are creating a culture of superficial monsters.

We are teaching our little girls to focus on external appearances rather than the important aspects of character development; such as values, honesty, good morals, communication skills, boundaries, self-respect and respect of others–the things that really matter. When I see little girls walking around wearing designer jeans, sporting real Uggs and holding cell phones to their ears, I wonder what their lives will be like when they grow up. Girls at a very young age are already fretting about fitting in and looking good on the outside. Many are being molded into clones of their mothers–shallow and externally focused. These kids have been given so much, it’s no wonder they feel entitled. What about shaping our young girls in more internal ways?  We need to give them the guidance and counsel so they can succeed beyond the the material world.  Mothers want to give their daughters pretty things and that s fine. But the pretty things don t last–instilling strong values does.

American culture, as a whole, is obsessed with material things. The male dominated media influences our lives with lots of must-haves to be cool and fit in. Young girls are brain-washed into thinking that having stuff will rid them of their insecurities, improve their self esteem and get the acceptance that they crave. I’ve heard  girls that are as young as ten and older ones too, complain about how they abhor their faces and their bodies. They want plastic surgery, hair straightening, breast implants. Wow. Our culture teaches them, at that young age to hate their bodies and not accept who they are.

We women need to stand up and stop buying into the thinking that we’ re not enough. We are. Our appearance and clothing are not governed by what designers say, what the media says or what anybody says. We are enough and we, as women, need to embrace our beautiful selves just as we are. We women are not defined by how we look. It is our inner qualities that create who we are and how we radiate our beauty. You know what I’m talking about. The next time you meet another woman, look a little deeper. It s not about what she’s wearing.

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3 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Remember when Tawny Pink was what every new teenager wanted? We all wanted to play dress up? Now I don’t think they play it anymore, they live it. Not sure what the answer is but we all feel the pressure, at every age. Thanks for writing about an important issue and giving us food for thought.

  2. Sara Dobie says:

    PREACH IT GIRL! Seriously, small children in designer clothes scare the crap out of me. (As does the thought of Tom Cruise raising a child, but I digress …) My most pressing concern, being a book nerd, is that young girls don’t even read anymore. They need some Judy Blume to get them through, and they don’t even know who Judy Blume is. Hopefully, if enough of us “adults” keep pointing out these flaws, things will get better. The problem is that most intelligent, successful business women don’t want kids … so how can we raise a positive generation, with good values, when we aren’t involved in their upbringing? Beats me, but I’m working on it. Keep speaking up for what’s right, dear lady. You are amazing.

  3. Marcia Fine says:

    Loved it! We’ve been talking about this for years. Moms need to be bold and stand up and say, “Enough!” If we don’t start developing minds instead of bodies we’re not going to have strong women to take their place in the world.
    Re: the magazine you saw filled with ads for the “Scottsdale crowd”
    That’s why I write satire!
    Marcia Fine

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